I’ve been in plays where I’ve had to kiss someone.

It’s part of the play.

And it’s not as interesting as one would think.

You’re performing a role.

There’s no emotional involvement and it’s mechanical.

It’s nothing like when you kiss someone you have feelings for.

But in the olden days, when a play called for a kiss, you just sort of dove in and did it.

There’s a kiss in the play I’m in. Things I Know to be True.

And we had an intimacy coach work with us to choreograph the kiss.

It was interesting to go through the process.

Julie, who plays my wife, and I were used to the “just wing it” process.

Kit, the intimacy coach, set up some ground rules and made that it was a safe space.

They even had the director leave the room while we did our work.

Julie and I both confirmed what we were comfortable with.

Then we walked through the lines before the kiss.

It was an interesting process.

I thought that intimacy coaches were more for younger actors, but it makes sense at any stage of the craft.

Everyone was clear on what they were comfortable with. I didn’t feel any of the awkwardness that sometimes accompanies this process.

In the end, I think it will look good.

And it was a pleasant experience.

Yay for intimacy coaches!